I lifted this post from the Diversion Thread from a few days ago. I think it warrants its own string.
We are a board dedicated to one simple premise. There is no legitimate reason to relapse. Some people may not like this premise. Some may feel that
if the most tragic thing in the world imaginable were to occur, smoking would be understandable. Well, if a person relapses under such a tragedy would the
rest of us understand. In fact, yes we would. We would understand perfectly what happened.
We would understand that the person who just went through a horrible life tragedy has just compounded his or her problem by thinking that somehow
relapsing to a drug that will slowly cripple him or her, cost him or her a small fortune over the rest of his or her life, will make him or her a more
nervous and sadder person for the rest of his or her life, and will likely eventually kill him or her. Do we feel bad for the person for the original
problem? Sure we do. But the fact is every person on this board has past, present and will face future life tragedies.
But every person on this board has to recognize that no matter what the stress, smoking cannot solve it. All smoking will do is cause another
problem, in many ways a bigger problem than the problem that led the ex-smoker to take relapse. While it may sound heartless to say a bigger problem, if
the problem were a loss of a child, spouse, parent, sibling, or even a close friend, the bottom line is smoking can cause the death of you.
That is going to leave your parents, wife, husband, siblings, friends and everyone else you know facing the same feelings of loss and disruption. Do
you want any of these people to relapse to drug addiction when you die? If on your death bed would pass out cigarettes to your children who are ex-smokers,
heroin to your siblings are a recovering addicts, bottles of booze to your parents who have been successfully off drinking for decades? Would you say to
them, "Well I am going now, you may all want to consider taking this stuff, I understand how upset you must be."
There are only two legitimate reason to relapse. One, you want to go back to smoking until it cripples then kills you or two, you enjoy withdrawal so
much you never want it to end. If this is the case just take one puff every third day, withdrawal will last forever.
Any other reason you take it is not legitimate, and thinking that it is will only undercut your ability to ever quit and stay off for over life other
things will happen. If one tragedy is a good reason, so will the next one be. To have to explain this to each and every members specific past life tragedy
would tie the board up. It would in fact become a diversion to what everyone is here for. To focus on not smoking today.
We must remember the past, and hopefully learn from it. But the lesson had better be the real understanding that a past relapse was a mistake, a big
mistake, one that if not undone now in itself will be a tragedy. If the lesson is anything else, that relapse was the biggest mistake you ever made in your
life, one that in fact one day will cost you your life. Don't get caught up in the mind games of a legitimate relapse. Instead, learn from the past and
prepare yourself to face the future, no matter what it holds with your full commitment and resolve to never take another puff!
Joel
I can always create a reason for a relapse if my
addiction wants me to. I understand now that there is NO reason good enough. I am never going to smoke one puff again. Thank you for your wisdom.
