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The title says it all! This journey leads to comfort for all of us. As it does, the seriousness of the site and the tremendous focus maintained here will gradually evolve from being exactly what we needed during Glory Week to exactly what we don't need as comfortable and relaxed ex-smokers. It's almost a paradox. The sign on the door says "Freedom from Nicotine" but once we grow into a somewhat relaxed ex-user it's natural to want the sign on the door to read "Freedom to Relax, Let Our Hair Down a Bit, Freedom to Loosen Up and Have a Bit of Fun!" "The path was long, at times intense, we made lots of friends along the way and now we just want to tone things down a bit!" It's normal for oldbies to feel like things are just too structured - because for most they truly are!

Freedom is a unique blend of education and support but our education mission comes first. It must, for without a solid recovery education our success at supporting an uneducated member is in serious doubt.

During this first year following our move from MSN to Yuku our tiny staff devoted most of its free time to trying to clean-up and fix broken links, missing images, formatting and duplicate posts within hundreds of education threads. Unfortunately, while doing so we relaxed oversight of member posts. When we actually stopped and looked closely at the number of threads that had turned into social meeting sites it left lumps in our throats. At MSN, if a member had difficulty staying focused we warned them and if they still failed to do so we simply let them go. But when we looked closely, a number of our Yuku members had received far more warnings than would ever have been tolerated at MSN.

Our content rule is simple - if it's a recovery related post, it's fine - if not, then it is not acceptable! And recovery is pretty broad to include all the education topics, member recovery related posts, milestone threads, stats parades, articles and studies (please get stories and links approved by a manager first), and relapse prevention!

We understand the desire to socialize and to want Freedom to relax things a bit as you move along but we refuse to let it happen. Each new arrival deserves the same deadly serious forum that existed when we arrived. Many here understand the comfort development concept and the growing desire to share some relaxing time with those who made the journey with them, but they don't appreciate the fact that the rebellious spirit is a normal development (almost like teens who feel the need to move out and get away from mom and dad's house rules). We'd love for nothing more than to shut Freedom down for the weekend and take all of our members out to the beach, a movie or for a Hot Fudge Sunday, but for every comfortable oldbie Freedom graduates we have a Glory Week newbie walking through the front door. We can't leave!

When the time comes where any member's recovery evolves to the point that they feel that Freedom is simply too strict in staying on message then there is absolutely no reason why they can't spread their wings, take some time away from Freedom, or find an online place that is designed for socialization, and maybe even invite their Freedom friend along with them. It isn't necessary to disrupt Freedom's focus or try and burn the house down just because you're ready to enjoy your new life. We want our Oldbies around but not if they're growing hostile to their confines.

You can always come back and post when you need your batteries recharged or you feel like sharing your vast library of recovery wisdom with Freedom's next generation of newbies. It isn't necessary to say things that can't be taken back in order to justify your departure. or your displeasure with the tremendous focus we will continue to maintain. We're not like any other site, it's by choice and we each knew it from day one!

We're far from perfect and we know it. We make mistakes now and then and we know it. It's extremely easy to find fault with all of us and the longer we're around each other the more human we each become. Out of respect for Freedom and the education and support this forum has provided you, we ask that as your recovery matures into comfort and you begin to find the structure here at Freedom too confining that you act in a mature manner that ensures that all new arrivals will be able to enjoy the same life saving message that Glory Week shared with you!

If you have any comments or criticism that you'd like to share please DO NOT post it to this message but email it to us instead. Our new members deserve a tranquil site and each of you know that we don't tolerate disruption. We did it for you, we do it for them. To all members who strive to honor the forum's focus rules our sincere thanks.

Still just one rule ... no nicotine today!

John